JANE SAYS: Please stay calm and think this through. You can’t allow your boyfriend to put any pressure on you to join in or perform if you don’t feel completely happy or comfortable. I don’t believe tests and challenges in a relationship are ever a good idea. You need to tell him that you won’t be backed into a corner by anyone.
If having a threesome with another guy is something that you both want to do, then fine. But if he’s sprung it on you like an unwelcome chore, then you need to talk to him about your fears and feelings.
Why a guy this time and why not a girl? If the threesome idea is non-negotiable as far as he’s concerned, then are you in over your head? The fact is that he can have sex with anyone he fancies, but you don’t have to justify saying “No thank you”. I worry that you are trying a bit too hard to impress and keep him. Things might have been edgy and different with his ex, but you’re not his ex – and there must have been a good reason why they broke up after having so much fun. Has he ever told you what that reason was? .
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