Just Jane: 'My bit on the side swears her kids are mine – but they look nothing like me'

dailystar.co.uk:

JANE SAYS: Keep calm and explain to your on/off lover that you intend to do everything properly and maturely. It’s wonderful that she’s now the mother of two adorable cherubs and you wish her, and them, well. If they are your children then you will, of course, play your part.

You’ll see the children regularly, love and support them and pay whatever maintenance is set. But make it clear that everything must be above board. You’re not calling her a liar, but you will insist on proper DNA testing before you go any further. If the kids are yours, then that won’t be a problem – will it?

I suggest you tell your new girlfriend everything now so that there are no secrets or lies. Again, if you are the father, then she will have to accept that you’re a parent and welcome them accordingly. Is she interested in being a step-mum?

Sadly, if she feels that’s too much for her to cope with, then she’ll have to rethink her role in your life. I’m confident that with intelligence and application this can be sorted out. If you’re not the father, then your ex will have to work out who is, so that the children are provided for. .