Just Jane: 'My girlfriend wants to spice up our sex life with new toys - but I'm terrified'

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JANE SAYS: Work together and celebrate the positives within your relationship. The good news is that she desires you and is keen to push back barriers. This is an exciting time.

Let your imaginations run riot and have some fun. Do your homework like you would with any other subject. Buy the best sex manual you can find. Go online and check out relate.org.uk for sex tips. Introduce role play and talking dirty.

If you don’t fancy sex outside, then say so. Suggest a sensual massage or a shared shower instead. Find out what works for you, as a couple, and focus on thoughtfulness and kindness. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- My partner won’t admit that she has a problem with booze.She buys little bottles of wine and cans of ready-mixed spirits and hides them all over.I look under the kitchen sink for bleach and find a mini wine, I go to the shed for a broom and there’s a gin-and-tonic in a tin.It used to puzzle me how she got sloshed without me noticing.

Now I realise that she secretly drinks as she moves around the house and garden.Sometimes I present her with my “evidence” – but she promises to tip it away and not buy any more.However, I can’t trust her to follow through.