Dominant Partners: 6 Red Flags to Watch Out for

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( included), or perhaps being called a “good girl” is what turns you on. Slutty fantasies aside, playing the sub can also be empowering: It creates space for a person to embrace their desires and communicate their needs.

Not to mention, submitting to a dominant partner has the potential for some really, really great sex.But , a kink- and poly-affirmative certified sex therapist and the cocreator of the NYC-based Wise Sex Therapy Associates, points out that as a submissive, or “s-type,” it’s easy to mistake misogynistic behaviors as dominant ones. “Some people struggle with how to know if someone is being dominant, or is just being a jerk,” she says.To help you safely live out your kinkiest desires, Marcantonio outlines six red flags to watch out for in potential play partners.No two BDSM relationships look alike.

Some kinksters engage in round-the-clock power play where, depending on the agreed terms, the dominant (D) can control day-to-day decisions for the sub (s), like whether they wear panties to work, or what time they go to bed.

But if you’ve communicated a desire for D/s play exclusively in the bedroom, that’s where certain behaviors should stay, Marcantonio says.