Dear Richard Madeley: 'I can't get my mother-in-law out of my house'
telegraph.co.uk– James, LancsI have to say that it seems to me that you’re a little bit frightened of your wife. On the one hand you say your marriage is very happy, then you say that ill-feeling is growing between you, and you’re worried a confrontation about your mother-in-law will make matters worse.Look, James, I’m sorry, but who else are you going to discuss this matter with?
Your wife’s mother? Your children? You yourself say that the rational thing to do is to thrash things out with your partner – and you’re right, it is.
In fact it’s the only thing to do. But why does it have to be a confrontation? Why can’t you raise your concerns in a quiet, reasonable way?If you genuinely fear that whatever tone you adopt, your wife will fly off the handle, here’s my advice.
Write her a letter or email about it. As I’ve said here many times before, the written word allows us to tweak and adjust what we want to say in a way we simply cannot when a real-life conversation starts to spin out of control.So marshal your arguments and commit them to screen or paper.
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