Mum says 'big kid voice’ hack stops whining in seconds and 'works every time'

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parents, the sound of whining kids is like nails on a chalkboard.While we love our children, it can sometimes be difficult to imagine their annoying tone of voice ever ending.But luckily one mum has found a way to get them to finally be quiet.Nina Spencer is mum to two sets of twins – aged 10 and four – and is also the founder of free group, The Chaotic Motherhood Tribe.The 41-year-old uses a great method to get her children to quieten down – the "big kid voice" hack.She told Fabulous: "While bribery is a great stopper in the moment of whining it’s not really a long term solution as it teaches them they get a treat when they whine."What we need to do instead is focus on what the child needs rather than what they want."A lot of the problems when it comes to whining is not so much what they're actually saying, but the tone of voice they use.Nina says: "We need to start by ignoring whining when it happens, pretend we are not bothered by it,"Then, when our child is calm, we can have a conversation to tell them 'in the future mummy is not going to respond to whining' so we need to use 'big kid voices'."Also, notice when whining happens.Is there a way to "fix" the moaning before it occurs?For example, pre-dinner tantrums could highlight that your child is hungry and may benefit from food earlier.Or if they're feeling grizzly at night-time, they may be over-tired.

If you know whining happens regularly say at the supermarket, or in the car make sure you keep them occupied before the whining starts.Nina says: "You could get them to help find things off a shopping list, get them to be a big helper by lifting things in the trolley, and then praise them."As well as giving them tasks to do, you can distract children with things they.