— Anon, via telegraph.co.ukLet’s just spin this around, shall we? Suppose it was your wife who’d written to me, telling me that her husband had become locked into a fixed cycle of expecting/demanding sex the moment he walked through the door at the end of every working day?
That she was exhausted by it? That sometimes all she wanted was supper together and a cuddle in front of Coronation Street?You can guess what my reply would be, can’t you?
You’re in exactly the same position as the wife in that imaginary letter. Yes, you enjoy sex with your partner; but you don’t want it to become a forced ritual.
That’s inimical to desire and enjoyment.So sit down with your wife and tell her how you feel about this constant pressure to ‘perform’, the lack of spontaneity, the seemingly endless requirement to ‘prove’ your desire for her.
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