All I do is run around after my ungrateful, lazy husband – how do I get my self-esteem back?

telegraph.co.uk:

NHS hospital and over the past 10 years my workload has tripled. Since my chemo treatment, my workload has again increased. I worry constantly, get very anxious and can’t sleep.

My managers don’t listen or help me and when I try to discuss it with my husband he changes the subject or raises his eyebrows.

I am looking for a new job, but my confidence is at rock bottom. AlI I do is people-please and run round after a lazy husband who constantly lets me down with his lack of support.– UsedWe can hear your pain.

We can hear that you feel stuck and scared, taken advantage of and angry. You are in “turbo-doormat” territory: continuing to pander to the needs of your husband and colleagues; continuing to over-deliver while your fury grows, fed by exhaustion and lack of appreciation.Your longer letter (edited above) tells us that you are angry with your manager for not listening, your colleagues for piling their workload on to you, and your husband for telling you not to leave you job until you find a new one because you will be in his way.To get to this point in your life, you have demonstrated real stamina.