Are You Experiencing 'Floodlighting' in Your Relationship?

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, , etc. And now, a new one has entered the chat: floodlighting.While it may feel like there are perhaps too many trendy terms at times, the truth is that they can help us better understand and describe unwelcome or even potentially dangerous behavior in our relationships.

And one of the best places to see these play out? , of course!As for floodlighting, it's basically a way to describe someone trying to push for deep intimacy too fast and too soon.

For a potential example of this, look to the latest season of , where some have accused of floodlighting her potential partner Alex as a way to move quicker to an engagement. (Then again, one could also argue that's the point of the whole show?)So, what does floodlighting actually mean then?

Jessica and Louella Alderson, co-founders of the dating app help us dig a little deeper.Imagine floodlighting as literally putting your relationship under the spotlight—even when the other party or the relationship itself might not be ready for such harsh, uncompromising attention.“Floodlighting in dating is about using vulnerability as a high-intensity spotlight,” says Jessica. “It involves sharing a lot of personal details all at once—to test the waters, speed up intimacy, or see if the other person can ‘handle’ these parts of you.”After a two-year relationship came to an end, Glamour editor Ruhama Wolle jumped back into the dating pool—only to find it was a puddle.Jessica says that while floodlighting isn't always completely terrible, it can be more harmful than you might think.Here are some of the reasons why:Are we dating, hooking up, or something else entirely?