‘A mother flirts with my husband at the school gates – I feel jealous and embarrassed’

telegraph.co.uk:

– UncomfortableBy the time you even get to the highly triggering place that is the school gates you have been in your relationship for more than a few years; you have been through the sleepless nights and the parenting anxiety; you are past the honeymoon period and well into the toenail period and your reserves and resources are probably considerably depleted.

Your relationship may be – to a greater or lesser extent – on autopilot. And while the boring everyday is comforting and healthy, you may not have the energy to give your marriage the oxygen required to make it blaze.

When you are in survival mode and it is easy to see threat wherever you turn.Firstly, it sounds as though you are worried about other peoples’ perception around what is occurring.

If you start worrying about school gate judgement, then the potential for panic is bottomless: how you look…the state of your car… the state of your kitchen… the holidays you take… your child’s haircut.