Dear Coleen: I felt sorry for my boyfriend’s needy ex, now I’m fed up

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I’ve been with my boyfriend for about two years and everything was going well until a few weeks ago.His ex-girlfriend got in touch, saying she was heartbroken after her partner cheated on her and their relationship ended, and she needed a shoulder to cry on.At first, I felt sorry for her because it sounded like her ex was vile to her and she was in a bad way.She also lost her home as she’d been living at his house and had to move out.I get why she wanted to talk to my boyfriend – they were together for years after meeting at college – but it’s been going on for weeks now.She calls and texts him constantly and he’s even been meeting up with her when she’s feeling low.I’m starting to get fed up with it and feel it’s affecting our ­relationship.She’s become such a big ­presence in our lives, but when I tried to explain to my boyfriend how I feel, he accused me of being unreasonable and unsympathetic.I don’t want to talk or hear about this woman any more.Am I being unreasonable?

I’m not sure he’d be quite so ­understanding if I was comforting one of my exes.I don’t want to be the bad guy, but what should I do?Get the latest news sent straight to your messages by joining our WhatsApp community today.You'll receive daily updates on breaking news as well as the top headlines across Scotland.No one will be able to see who is signed up and no one can send messages except the Daily Record team.All you have to do is click here if you're on mobile, select 'Join Community' and you're in!If you're on a desktop, simply scan the QR code above with your phone and click 'Join Community'.We also treat our community members to special offers, promotions, and adverts from us and our partners.