Dear Coleen: He wants us to get married but we can’t live together

dailyrecord.co.uk:

I’ve been with my partner for a few years and we have no ­children. We tried living together but it didn’t work because we argued constantly.He’s a neat freak – incredibly fussy about keeping the place tidy and clean, which is very unrelaxing.

I’m not messy or dirty at all but he just can’t handle living with anyone because no one can meet his exacting standards.I don’t want to live ­somewhere I can’t feel at home and where I’m always walking on eggshells and worried about spilling a cup of tea.

So we have separate homes and stay over at each other’s places (he mostly stays at mine). Things are great when we’re not living in the same house – we have good sex, lots of fun, enjoy each other’s company and have the same values and want the same things.

We just can’t live together! Recently he’s talked about marriage but he doesn’t know how it’ll work. I do love him but how can a marriage work if we’re not living under the same roof and what happens if we have children?