What not to say to a widow - people reveal the most outrageous comments made to them

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While we all hope to find love and be with someone for our whole life, some of us unfortunately lose our partners, husbands and wives and become widows and widowers.

It's a painful experience that is often worsened by the insensitive things said by other people when someone is in the midst of grief.

Here, widow Nicky Wake, founder of widow dating apps Chapter 2 and Widow's Fire reveals some of the worst phrases other widows and widowers have heard since losing their partner, taken from a recent survey she conducted... “I know how you feel… my dog died last week” “At least your house is mortgage-free” “You’ll soon be back in the groove chasing other women” “I’m jealous you get to start dating again" “You’re still young enough to meet someone else” “Don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll marry again” “You’re actually lucky, because some people go through life never even having been married” Nicky says: “Some of these remarks may seem pretty astounding - but, in fact, it’s something that many of us widows and widowers have experienced many times over. "Most of the time, it’s not malicious; it’s simply ignorance or insensitivity.

Sadly, widows and widowers are all in a club we never really wanted to join, and grief is very different for each of us. "What may seem like empathy to you, probably won’t seem that way to somebody who has just lost their partner of 30 years.” Nicky also has some tips for how to speak to a friend or family member whose partner has recently died...