Peter Facinelli Explains What Went Wrong With Jennie Garth Relationship: It ‘Slowly’ Changed

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It wasn’t just one thing. Peter Facinelli opened up about how his relationship with ex-wife Jennie Garth shifted over the years and how it affected his new romance with fiancée Lily Anne Harrison.“I think in relationships, in the beginning, they are wonderful,” the 48-year-old actor said on the Tuesday, April 12, episode of the “Allison Interviews” podcast. “You have this honeymoon period and it’s fantastic.”The Twilight star — who was married to Garth, now 50, for 11 years before their 2012 split — recalled “slowly, over time” things taking a turn in a negative direction.“Somebody might say something that is kind of hurtful.

The other person might permit it and then they get into a habit,” Facinelli explained. “So, bad things can become habitual, the way you start to treat each other, giving the other person permission or an allowance to talk to you in a certain way.”The Unbreakable Boy actor noted that “everyone has a bad day,” but once your partner’s hurtful actions become more commonplace, it’s hard to fully get back to the good times.“If that person talks to you in a certain way or does something, then all of a sudden, they feel they have permission to do that because you didn’t say, ‘That hurt my feelings.’ You didn’t speak up,” Facinelli continued. “All of a sudden it gets habitual, and it grows, and then you get resentful.”The New York native — who shares daughters Luca, 24, Lola, 19, and Fiona, 15, with Garth — further explained that it’s not easy to change those habits once they’re established.“A relationship is like a tree.

In the beginning, if it starts to bend you can correct it, but if you allow it to continue on that path there is nothing you can do to bend it back because it has already grown in that way